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Khila,

What happened in your relationship is not your fault. You are not responsible for what this man decided to do. He is responsible for his own actions. Counseling may help you to examine the relationship so that you can understand it and come to terms with it.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I like one of the people that wrote to you also dated a man who used marijuana for years for relaxing. He was very kind and considerate, would work a job, had one to finish his degree. Was very intelligent and eloquent in speech. He would also one day be in a very good mood then within hours be in a angry or depressed or sometimes agitated mood. Although we lived together and he had access to everything of mine he would not want me in his "private things" some of which I paid for. You see I paid for everything he was secretive and would turn things on me for blame and downgrade me with critical remarks. He ended up physically abusing me and at present I have a restraining order and a court date. He has obtained one of his children that I helped pay child support on from CPS and how this happened I will never know.

-- Contributed by: Khila

Betsy,

I often think that people should come with a sign that says "as is." If you want to be in a relationship with this man, you need to understand that marijuana use is going to be part of the deal. It's up to you to decide whether you want to continue the relationship on those terms or not.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I am dating someone what has been using/abusing marijuana for 12 years, some years he inhaled (through a pipe) 12 to 18 times a day.... The weird thing is that he is highly successfull in his career...Extremely smart, finished graduate school and pursuing a phd.

Interestingly, we have a difficult time communicating. Often I feel like he talks "out of both sides of his mouth" One day he wants to marry me, the next day he freaks out if I mention the word marriage. Lots of ups and downs with the ability to turn the arguements around into me always focusing on the negative part of life.... He has many times told me that my negative thoughts depress him and hurt his feelings, when I am just trying to determine if he remembers saying he would not help me with my kids.... Its very frustrating because he has a very good side to him. I can't help but think this "personality" is due to the chronic abuse of marijuana...Or has he been self medicating a true mental illness?

How can he do what he does professionally which requires a lot of focusing and responsibility? Very bad consequences if he screws up, he is in medicine.He is not the typical "lazy" pot smoker.

any advice, thoughts, etc. I am in love with him but I am also smart and not up for a lifetime of mindgames. Oh, the other piece to the puzzle is that he has a few times said to me that he wanted to quit and "get off the weed"

-- Contributed by: betsy

Crystal:

There are long term effects associated with marijuana uses and simply because you feel that you haven't experienced any consequences yet doesn't mean that you won't in the future. You are also using an illegal substance and there will be legal consequences if you are caught with it. This is not a harmless substance you are using.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I smoke weed every day atleast 2-3 times a day an i get straight A's on my report card. I'm 15 an in the 10th grade an have been smoking weed since i was 10. I never get lazy an i never fail to do my work in class an at home. I also have not done or want to do other drugs. Thanks for your time. bye crystal

-- Contributed by: crystal

don't forget that weed is a drug also right next to meth

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