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Lisa,

It sounds like you are depressed. This disorder makes people pull back from others and people who have it often feel hopeless and lonely. The good news is that you don't need to feel this way. Please tell a parent, a teacher or someone else you trust how you have been feeling. Ask them for help. You need to see a doctor to get screened for depression. Please talk to someone today.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I'm 16, and haven't been feeling happy for a while. At school I always put on an act and pretend I'm happy but I'm not, I now have no friends whatsoever and think I'm a hopeless, ugly, horrible person if no one wants to be my friend. I feel like I'm a burden on my family too. I've been crying every day for a while, sometimes more than once. Please help.

-- Contributed by: Lisa

Gaby,

Please tell someone you trust how you are feeling. You need to be screened for depression, and if you are depressed, help is available. You don't have to live like this. Tell one of your parents, a friend's parent, a relative, your soccer coach, your doctor - tell them you need help now.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

im 13, and i have almost every symptom up there except Mutilation i used to love soccer now i can barly focus enough to play it i alwyas feel so lost. i think death is the only escape. i used to eat alot not i barly eat once a day. i feel so hopeless and worthless like im a bruden to everyone.

-- Contributed by: Gaby

Victoria,

If you are thinking about suicide, it's a sign that you need help - right now. Tell a parent, a teacher, a guidance counselor, or another adult you trust about how you have been feeling. The first step to getting help is to see a doctor. Make an appointment with your primary care physician right away.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

im only 14, i have every symptom thats up there. i used to be in cheerleading & now i hate it. i used to eat alot & stay thin, but not i barely eat 2 meals a day. I cry for eveything, i always get mad.i tend to feel ditched by all my friends when they do simple things as go to the bathroom without me. ive been having thoughts of suicide aswell.

-- Contributed by: victoria

Keira,

Depression can become a chronic condition, but that doesn't mean that there is no hope. It's not a simple matter of just pulling out of it; if it were that simple there wouldn't be so many prescriptions being written for antidepressant medications. Please start by making an appointment to see your doctor. Tell him or her about your depression, including how long you have been feeling this way and ask for help. The most effective way to treat depression is with a combination of medication and some kind of talk therapy. You don't need to live this way; please make an appointment right away.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Ive been depressed for years. And everyone tells me i have to pull out of it but i dont know how

-- Contributed by: Keira

Nique,

It does sound like you are having a difficult time right now. Being a teen is hard enough without having issues about your weight. I would suggest that you see your doctor to get screened for depression and to talk about a plan so that you can lose weight in a healthy way. The last thing you want to do is to go on a crash diet. A balanced diet that includes a variety of foods and exercising regularly may help you lose weight and be helpful in treating the symptoms of depression, too.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I am 15 years old and I am an obese girl. Before my weight never bothered me for the simple fact that I am best dressed in school or say was because now im gaining weight like crazy and the nice clothes i cant even fit anymore. Now i dont even know what a good day in school is like. Im always getting talked about or somebody tries to say slick stuff on the side and im think im going into a depressed mode my mom is always telling me im fat and by dad is always telling me your too big and all this other stuff. and sometimes i ask god to take me off this earth im tired of dealing with all the stress i mean why live and be mistreated,hurt, etc. i just really hate my life right now at this moment and i know things would get better if i just go somewere and loose some weight but people just dont understand how hard it is to be that fat girl nobody even talks to me and before i never like sitting there like a bump on a log while everyone else talks but i started not to care anymore and just sit there cause i figured schools almost over wat the heck no time to make friends now cause if i wanted friends its too late. i have one friend who is big like me well actually bigger than me and we share are thoughts but she always thinks everything is funny but she a fat popular girl and i dont wanna be like her i just want her personailty and i just dont know what to do i figured i would just get a j ob this summer and loose weight and work out everyday then trying to go to the beach and hang out with all my friends. any suggestions on what i should do about my situatuions

-- Contributed by: Nique

Casey,

You are to be commended for having clear goals and being willing to work toward them. It sounds like you have a very full plate, without a lot of down time. Life doesn't have to get like this, but with multiple demands on our time, people can feel overwhelmed. I would suggest that you see your doctor for a complete physical. While you are there, tell him or her all the demands on your time and how you have been feeling. Since these symptoms have been present longer than a couple of weeks, you may be depressed. It's worth your while to get screened for it. If you are depressed, you can get treatment. You don't have to go on feeling this way. Please call and make an appointment right away.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

I'm 17 and a junior in high school. For about the past two or three months i've noticed some odd changes in myself. My eating habits go up and down; some days i eat all the time, some barely at all, my sleep habits are awful; i toss and turn all night and it never fails that i wake up around 2 or 3am. When i finally get back to sleep, it's time to wake up again and get ready for school. My grades are fine but i have so much trouble finding any interest in school and it's just hard to concentrate. Also stress is a BIG issue in my life. I've had a 10 year plan since 8th grade and i've stuck to it ever since. So with working as hard as i possibly can in school, dealing with 5 extra-curriculars, making time for family, friends, and boyfriend, and living on a farm (which requires a big majority of my attention, I just feel worn out and beat down 95% of the time. And because of that stress, I've begun to lose any of my confidence, my self-esteem is at an all time low, and every time i make a mistake or make someone unhappy, i feel beat down and worthless. Is this just how life gets or could i be depressed?

-- Contributed by: Casey

Nicole,

What you describe sounds like depression. Your mother is right that the teen years are ones where a certain amount of mood swings are normal, but feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness may indicate a more serious condition. Can you confide in another adult that you trust and ask them to help you approach your parents to ask them to schedule an appointment with your doctor so that you can get screened for depression?

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

i'm 16 and i've been switching from happy to sad for a while now but these past three weeks the sad feeling just wouldn't leave and i don't know what to do anymore. i've had the urges to cry at odd times and when i'm alone or no one can see me i will cry for no reason, i've lost interest in my favorite activities like drawing and reading, and its been getting harder and harder every day for me to concentrate in school and my grades are starting to drop. my mom won't take me seriously and keeps telling me its part of growing up but i've lost the ability to even try and figure my life out. every da it seems like everything i do makes someone mad and then i feel worthless and start thinking i can't do anything right. i want to know whats wrong with me and i need some to explain it to me instead of telling me its part of growing up.

-- Contributed by: Nicole

Kate,

Being a teen can be a difficult time. Not only do you need to deal with hormonal changes, but you are also thinking about what kind of person you want to be and make choices about work after you are finished school. That's a pretty tall order. I would suggest that you talk to your mother, or another adult you trust, about how you are feeling. You might find it helpful to see your doctor to get screened for depression. Don't suffer in silence; please talk to someone today.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Im 15 & feel completely alone. i had a big group of friends, but they all fell out with me. i don't know why. i now only have one best friend and a few others. i want to get more out of life, go out and have fun, have lots of friends, but i can't. Last summer i had difficulty sleeping & stopped eating for a while. i don't know what's wrong with me. I have a good family life, my mum is always there for me, & do OK in school. I find sometimes i cry for no reason. why am i doing this? can someone please tell me?

-- Contributed by: Kate

Mercedes,

The feelings you describe are caused by depression. Please tell your mother, a teacher, a school counselor, or another adult you trust how you are feeling and ask them to help get some help. Your family doctor can prescribe medication, if appropriate, and refer you to a therapist. Help is available. You don't need to feel this way.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

ok so i am 13 years old and have had an ok life. im smart but i feel like somethings missing. i recently moved in with my dad and used to live with my mom. she always tried to be a friend so i took care of my younger brother mostly. my older siblings did drugs and ran away alot. they also used to get into fights with my mom and stepdad tht sometimes ended up in physical violence. at my school now though i feel completley alone. i mean i have friends but i dont think they get me or what ive been through. i try my best to be happy but i cant and the littlest things set me off and i go crazy. its led to me getting physical once. my little brother(he moved to my dads too) was making me mad by standing in my doorway and watching my tv. i wnet to go shut my door and he stopped the door so i pushed him far enough to where he fell downstairs, he didnt get hurt but i felt bad afterwards. i hate feeling unworthy and nagry all the time. my dad helps alot because hes letting me get tested for depression and to see if im bipolar but im afriad of what the results are gonna be and i just need some reassurence.

-- Contributed by: mercedes

Kelly,

People who feel depressed often describe feeling empty and hopeless. Please tell an adult you trust how you are feeling and ask them to help you find a therapist to talk to. You may want to start by making an appointment to see your doctor. A combination of talk therapy and antidepressant medication can be an effective treatment for depression.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Okay so I am a bit young. I'm thirteen, but it's been horrible for me for the past two and a half years. I am the oldest child of a torn up family, my parents divorced when I was three, so I've been getting suspicous on wether or not that caused all this anger I'm feeling. Then came two summers ago when me, my sister, both of my grandparents, and my great-aunt went to North Carolina. I already thought my grandmother as a nuisance, but I allowed her to see when I was happy. On that trip she yelled and screamed at me for different things, that made me cry at night, but it didn't cause any scarring. Then came when I started to wright my feelings down on paper. I had a notebook filled with songs and poems. Then I did something incredibly stupid, I left the notebook at her house. She read everything and told my mom about it and said that I needed to go to therapy. She shoved me into therapy, but there was nothing wrong with me. School was great my friends were awesome, but she felt there was something wrong with the way I acted and the way I dressed. So that left me cold and angry when I saw her. Then my crush of 6 years stopped talking to me, and I'm hurt because this is my last year to finally get to him before High school when I may never see him again. Then it's as though every elderly relative that I'm close to are starting to plan for their own funeral. My street's being dug up. My mother is in the market for a new boyfriend and my mom has finally stopped smoking, but that means that she thought she was finally going to die. So many people have died in the past week, my old teacher and the guy who lived across the street. I also think that this whole Edgar Allan Poe phase I'm in is starting to get to me. I've gotten a negative outlook on life. I try hard not to cry in front of my friends, but I feel so vulnerable now. I want to know what caused this feeling, feeling dead inside, and I want to know how to stop it. It hurts badly.

-- Contributed by: Kelly

I am 18 and I have recently moved away to college. I am nine or more hours away from home and have no friends at school. I have tried to get involved and do activities to keep me busy. I have become very upset and all I want to do is sleep everyday all day. I find myself getting at least 12 hours of sleep each day, most days I get 12-16, and when I wake up I am just as tired as when I went to sleep. I am always crying and very irratble. I get very mad very fast and then it ends in tears. I have told my mom about this and she just tells me that she thinks I'm depressed. I have tried to get over it, but nothing seems to help. I am moving back home in December to see if things change, but my dad doesn't seem to understand and is just getting mad at me and tells me that I'm a quitter and I know I'm not its just that my school work is suffering because I don't care enough to wake up to do it. I get very stressed over the things my dad says and I end up crying almost everyday. I can be super happy and hyper one minute then completely upset and crying the next second and I can't figure out why. Does it sound like I'm suffering from depression?

-- Contributed by: Michelle

Alix,

I'm glad you shared how you have been feeling. The first step in getting help is to tell an adult you trust how you have been feeling. It sounds like you are feeling very overwhelmed right now, and you need to get some help to get things sorted out. If you are depressed, then treatment is available. You don't have to continue to feel this way. Please find someone you can open up to.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Hi. straight to the point...i am 17 and have felt unhappy for at least 3 years straight. Of course i have highs and lows but in the last year i have noticed myself being tearful and crying out for no reason. earlier this year i lost my grandma the last of my grandparents which was really hard and that may have something to do with it but otherwise i am always tired, and never happy with anything that i do. I am at boarding school so it is hard to cope on my own but i cant bring myself to tell anyone how unhappy i am with everything. My school work has fallen a lot in the last 2 years and after recently gettin my as levels it stresses me out too much on how much effort i have to put in for my alevels and i cant be bothered. I just feel that all my goals i set, i never can achieve and all my dreams that i work to never happen. Home life is ok when i am there but this summer i havent got on with my mum at all and it was awful. My parents are going through a really difficult time aswell and i think that is wearing off on me but they have been fighting constantly my whole life. Just found myself crying so much at the moment and now school has started again i just cant see myself getting happy about anything and i have nothing to look forward to, even so i have to put on a brave face to see my friends though its gettin too hard. I just dont know what to do.

-- Contributed by: Alix

Brianna,

The teen years can be turbulent, that's for sure. Do you have someone you can talk to about what kinds of things make you angry and better ways to react when you feel that way? It could be an older sibling,a parent, a teacher, counselor, or someone else you trust.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Everyday i get angry for no reason.I yell and scream over stupid stuff,I feel like I can control myself.I just wish I could be normal.

-- Contributed by: brianna

Hi Sam,

It's normal to feel sad if the person you have been dating is moving away. You care for him and you are going to miss him. I can understand that you don't feel you can talk to your mother about this, but is there another adult that you can talk to? Maybe an aunt or uncle, older sibling, or a friend's mother? If you are feeling depressed and crying a lot, you do need some help, and there is nothing wrong or shameful about asking for it. A doctor can evaluate your condition and refer you for conselling and/or prescribe antidepressant medication that can help.

As far as what you can for for yourself to relieve stress, you can take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising. You may find it helpful to write down what you are feeling in the form or a letter or a journal.

Please tell someone you trust about what is going on.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

i honestly dont do this kind of thing but im really sad that a guy i have been dating is moving and i dont know how to deal with it and i dont know if im gonna be able to tell him how i feel about all this i know its not gonna stop him from moving but i need help and i cant go to him or my mom i just wish that he would stay i i went through this before but i dont know if i can go though it again i find myself depressed alot and i dont know all i do is cry and listen to sad song and i just want help to be able to do this i dont need a doctor or nothing i just want to know ways i can relive the stress and depression

-- Contributed by: sam

Hi Jake,

I understand that you care for your girlfriend and you want her to get some help. If she is depressed, she may not be able to put forward the emotional energy to get help.

If she can't talk to her parents, is there someone else she can trust? It can be an older sibling, a school counselor, a teacher, or a doctor? Offer to go with her to talk to someone if that would make her feel more comfortable.

There is help available for depression; all your girlfriend needs to do is ask for it. She is fortunate to have someone who cares for her as much as you do.

Take care.

Jodee Redmond LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Hiya. My girlfriend seems to be suffering from severe depression. She constantly bites my head off and gets angry with me over nothing, and I end up in the doghouse most nights becuase shes in a poor mood.

I understand what shes going through, to some degree, and I understand that shes got it hard.

I told her that she needs to tell her parents whats going on and try to get help, but she wont listen. Shes rather bull-headed, and she honestly doesn't trust nor open up to anyone but me.

My question is - how can I help her? How can I get her to see that she can get help? I'm lost and confused, and I've tried everything I can think of. Her mood is starting to get to me now.

Please help, and send a response to my Email if you can, I don't know if I'll be able to check this site again for awhile.

-- Contributed by: Jake

Mel,

Feeling depressed doesn't have anything to do with how pretty or popular you are. Please tell an adult that you trust you are feeling depressed and ask them to help you get the help you need. You can start by making an appointment to see your doctor. You don't have to feel this way; there is help available.

Jodee Redmond, LoveToKnow Editor

-- Contributed by: JC Redmond

Hi. Fourteen. Pretty. Popular. Yet, depressed. Story of my life. This is my way of asking for help.

-- Contributed by: Mel
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